We’ve all seen the video. Cop flips high school student out of chair, yanks her around like a rag doll. There’s also two other videos, showing the same girl punching the cop in the chest and neck, but that’s (somehow) irrelevant. Now the cop is fired and talking heads everywhere are using the incident to push pre-baked agendas and statistically incorrect race conflicts.
Lather, rinse, repeat.
So, in this nation-destroying blame game, how did no one bother to ask why the minor’s parents were not involved in the discipline process? Do teachers routinely use police to physically confront students before contacting parents? Why did that become a good idea?
How did parents get so removed from conflict resolution with their own children? School is not supposed to be some black hole children live in for hours a day. Don’t tell me there wasn’t time to call home, this wasn’t an active shooter situation. In fact, the problem was errant cell phone use, coupled with refusal to physically move from the classroom. You’re telling me a teacher can’t whip out their own phone and call mom or dad?
When did parents become silent partners in child-rearing? More importantly, why do they choose to remain so?
That’s the problem. Not the teachers, not the students, not the cops. We have a generation of children raised by screens, each other, and a shattered education system run by a state monopoly. As long as families are broken, dad is absent, parents keep dumping off their babies to “find fulfillment,” and entertainment/addictions are more important than children, these things will continue to happen.
None of those things are the police’s fault.
Parents should be the first line of discipline; actually involved at the conflict and policy levels. I know, maybe parents won’t take the call; they might remain as uninvolved as usual, or worse, defend the errant child. That is the conversation we need to have in this society, not who to fire when families disintegrate.
There’s a whole other host of issues that go into this argument, such as school choice (a good thing), compulsory education (also a good thing), and Constitutional rights for minors, to name a few. Those national conversations need to be had. Side note: If you want a genuinely productive answer to such problems, do not look to government as your answer. They’ve done a rather horrible job with education, so they don’t get an opinion.
It doesn’t matter if you are black, white, brown, or a penguin; families are the functional unit of society. No government funding, social program, or redefinition of the nuclear family will make broken homes vanish. If you really, really want to improve the lives of children, schools, and race relations, you will work to support and strengthen the family in every aspect of society. That means the schools call parents first, it means parents take those calls, it means parents discipline children in a productive and effective way. It means schools answer to parents, not the state. It means children answer to parents, not the other way around.
America has two choices. Fix the family or watch society burn.
P.S. Compounding to the high school kid’s problems is the report that she’s in foster care. Still think broken families aren’t the problem?